It is interesting how a word that is meant to provide us with ‘comfort’ can also have a double meaning. Comfort can be a good word when we think about how we might want our lives to be. Carefree, easygoing, enjoyable and stable…’comfortable’. The word itself makes our shoulders drop and we can sigh. It is what we strive towards and want to be as our destination. We ask ourselves, I will be comfortable when I get that first job where I am able to feel established. I will be comfortable when I settle down with that other person for the rest of my life. I will be comfortable when I am able to pay off the mortgage. These are all things that people will journey towards and look forward to.
On the other hand, it could also be a situation where we stop growing or take risks because we live in comfort. We are afraid to rock the boat for fear of losing our comfort. The situations we used to dream about fade away as the reality of comfort settles in. Before you know it, you are years into a position and feeling bound because comfort has settled in and you now have lost your edge to change. I will just sit on the sidelines till it is time for me to retire…then what?
It is interesting that the other word ‘uncertainty’, is the opposite of comfort, and also has a double meaning. Many people fear uncertainty and ambiguity. People may like situations that are clear and obvious because it means that they are in a comfort zone. Uncertainty means having to change and go down a path that involves ambiguity. We are not sure what might happen and we think about the limitations and challenges over the possibilities and opportunities. It is about walking to the edge and into the darkness, take a step not knowing what is going to happen.
Uncertainty also provides us that little bit of nervousness that gets us excited about the unknown and we have to be creative/innovative in our response. You have to have self-confidence and believe in yourself so you make the most of the challenging situations. There are people I know who have given up comfort and changed their lives to travel and challenge themselves or they have left a stable position to embark on a new journey of entrepreneurship. The funny part is, they always land on their feet. When you go down this path, you are not alone. There are champions and enablers who will be along your journey.
Ask yourself about comfort and uncertainty and if you are not happy with your present situation, are there ways you can institute uncertainty to change things up a bit? We must continue to grow as individuals or be destined for regrets. I am not asking you to give up your comforts but to instill a bit of uncertainty. Start with small things that you can or should do and see what it leads to. You will be amazed with the outcomes. Have faith in yourself. You have much to offer and sometimes we just need to get a glimpse of what we are capable of…someone once said: “A mighty ship can sit safely in a harbour; however, that is not what they were built for.” Release the lines and set the sails for the horizon.
Understand that if you have comfort, you may lack uncertainty and if you embrace uncertainty, you can’t really reside in comfort. My choice…and it is my choice, is to set the path for uncertainty and continue to have adventures.
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